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Thursday, June 21, 2012

How To Get Fit

I've been super fit for a while now, and sometimes I forget what it feels like to be completely new to the world of fitness/wellness/nutrition/sexiness. It can definitely be confusing, and if you aren't super self motivated it's especially difficult. But now you have me, and this blog to keep you on point so I don't wanna hear any complaints, beeyotch.

So here's my first option for success: pick a day next week and decide that you're going stop eating anything processed, sugary, extra fattening or just plain bad for you. Drink only water. And start running and lifting weights for an hour 5 days a week after school for the rest of your life. That's what I did 9 years ago and it clearly worked out (no pun intended lol). So for those you extreme natured type of people this is the end my post.


But I have a feeling that most people don't operate like me, so here's my second option: Take baby steps.

Here they are

1. Stop fucking playing yourself and accept the fact that you need to make a positive change in your life. Whether you're morbidly obese and on the verge of a heart attack or if you're a size 0 model type who lives off of snickers bars and gets winded from walking up a flight of stairs you need to be in shape. We, as people, all need to be in shape. So if you're not in shape recognize that this is something you must absolutely do for yourself and humanity. Yes, it is that serious.

2. Set goals for what you want to do with your body. Do you want to lose 10 pounds? Do you want a 6 pack? Do you want to be a size 8? Do you want to be able to do a cartwheel? When I initially started my new lifestyle it was because I wanted to be able to run 2 miles non stop - and obviously to look good and acquire the hot body that I have today- so with goals in mind I was able to move to step 3.

3. Give yourself a timeframe. Obviously be a realistic and timely about it. If you need to lose 100 pounds you're not going to do it in 2 months, but you could do it in a year. During my sophomore in high school when I started out I said I wanted to look good by junior year and drop 3 pants sizes, so that's what I did. Then when I reached my goal of sexiness during my junior year I set a new goal to join the cross country team senior year. And I did just that.

4. Ween yourself off of junk food. I went cold turkey, but I know a lot of people can't so the best thing to do is to start slow. If you eat dessert everyday, start by eating dessert 1 or 2 times a week until you get used to it. Then after you get used to eating less dessert eat even less dessert until you're only eating it occasionally, like 2-3 times a month or less. Do the same with meats, dairy and starchy carbs. Eat mostly fruits and vegetables, whole grains and nuts - you know, healthy shit.

5. Workout. If you're completely new start by walking for 30-45 minutes everyday for 5 days. You don't have to be a fitness expert, you don't have to be a star athlete but you have to start somewhere.  You do have to push yourself though. If you want to see results you have to go hard, it's not a leisurely thing, that's why it's called a WORKout. Your workouts will need to be modify and changed over time, but right now just start! Join a gym, hire a trainer, get a group of friends together, but don't rely on these people to get you results. Having other people join you or train you is definitely motivational but only YOU can get YOU where you want to be.

5. Committ: Just do it, by any means necessary. The same dedication you give to work, or school, or band, or spending time with your significant others and friends you need to give to yourself and your wellness. Stick to your plan, workout 3-5 days a week, be on a strict veggie based diet, get 6-8 hours of sleep every night and work hard until you reach your goal. GO HARD. Don't be too down on yourself if you occasionally slip up, but have the courage to fight until you reach your goals. Don't listen to anyone who doubts you or tries to bring you down, take any negative energy and turn it into motivation to keep going. And most importantly enjoy your new lifestyle!

*Being fit and positive and attractive and healthy and happy will improve your life in so many ways that I couldn't even sum it up in 1 post. Just know that you have the capacity and the ability and the strength to get it done, and if I didn't believe in YOU and your potential I wouldn't have made this post. When you take care of yourself you are doing the world a huge service. You are sending out good vibes and unconsciously allowing others to do the same. You are maximizing the joy in your life and you'll have people checkin out your ass left and right. Who wouldn't want that?




Sexy is a LIFESTYLE.

So that's all I got for now. Later Bitches.

XoXo, 
 AminaZena

E-mail:        aminazena@gmail.com




Wednesday, June 6, 2012

Would You Stay With Your Boyfriend If He Got Fat?

True love is unconditional. Physical attraction on the other hand sure as hell isn't. 



I have a personal training client, let's call her Bethany, and I've been working with her for a few months now. She looked good before, but she's lost a lot of weight, dropped a pant size and is looking super toned (yes, it's my blog and I can participate in shameless self promotion all I want).  She tells me how guys at the gym are starting to notice her more now, and I tell her she should scoop one up. But the problem is she has a boyfriend, and he wouldn't be a problem if he took care of himself the way Bethany takes care of herself. 

When they met, he was an athlete, a football player with a super nice physique, which is a huge reason they are together. They had chemistry,the physical attraction was mutual, and their personalities clicked. But they've been together for 5 years and dude has completely let himself go;  his once brolik buff body now resembles the Pillsbury dough boy. Fucking bummer

Bethany even told him that the reason they haven't had sex in months is because she's not attracted to him anymore. She's tried being frank about it, tried being nice about it, she's tried just about everything to motivate him but he doesn't make efforts to change. She feels terrible about it, but I can't blame her for not wanting to have sex with a hippo. Her coworkers tried to tell her that she never loved him, but that's some bullshit if you ask me.

I would never date a guy who was out of shape - ever, EVER! First off, I'm a 10 so I expect my man to be a 10 too. Second  It's a character flaw; if you don't take care of yourself and value your health what the fuck do you care about? No amount of money, power, fame or material possessions can replace having a nice bangable body and good health if you ask me. They say love is about what's inside, but the outside is a reflection of what's inside. You can tell when someone is happy by the way they carry themselves, the way their eyes light up (or not) when they talk, the glow on their skin, and obviously their physique. You cannot convince me that a sane person would actually prefer to be morbidly obese or even just mildly out of shape and finds that to be a happy fulfilling lifestyle. 

I would rather be single for the rest of my life than be with a man who had to lift up his stomach in order to have sex with me. That's real talk. (not to mention big guys have smaller penises)

Now obviously not everyone agrees with my stance on this but I think she should break up with him, love isn't all about sex and physical appearance but it means a lot. She's tried to help him,she's tried to coach him, she's tried just about everything but there's only so much you can do when someone doesn't want to help themselves. I've even met other people in this exact same situation, and their significant other didn't make changes until they were dumped. When you're in a committed monogamous relationship sex matters a lot, and it some cases it is the glue that holds things together, and that's not a bad thing. You should be excited to see your partner naked, and not want to gag.  Humans are sexual creatures, it is a need and needs will eventually be met because they need to be - that's pretty much the reason behind why people cheat. 

And maybe you think I'm a bitch for saying all of this, but how would you feel if you were with a guy who looked like a model but had the personality of a paper bag? You would say break up with him and find someone who had a better personality. It's the same thing as dumping someone for not taking care of themselves and gaining 100 pounds in the course of 5 years. Looks matter people. They really do.

Bethany fell in love with an athlete who took his body seriously, not a 400 pound slob who doesn't give a damn about himself anymore. He's not the same person she fell in love with so why should she stay when he doesn't put in the work to make her happy?  We all deserve to be with a partner who is a reflection of ourselves, and if you're in the gym grinding you deserve a partner who's right there with you. If you're a slob you don't deserve to be with someone who has their shit together.  Bethany deserves to be with someone who has the same passion for health as she does, she deserves to be with someone who makes her melt, who has a rippling six pack and a great personality. It would be one thing if the guy broke his leg and couldn't walk or workout, but homeboy is lazy and that's a no-no.

So the question for you is would you stay with your boyfriend or girlfriend if they got fat and didn't try to change?   Do you care about your significant other's appearance as much as I do? Let me know what you think, I'm excited to see your feedback! 


Later Bitches


XoXo, 
 AminaZena

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